For the last few months the boys have been going to nursery near my office full time. It's worked well, because they LOVE it, but it's very expensive so we've been looking into an alternative option since we moved.
The alternative option begins this week and we're going to have the boys in nursery two days a week and with a Nanny the other three - she is in a circle of nannies locally and they all meet up and do activities together so the boys are going to have a pretty packed diary from here on in.
It isn't really going to save a huge amount financially - a little, like a tank of petrol a month, but it will give them a mix of activities and experiences and will introduce them to some children closer to home (my office, and thus nursery, is an hour from home) and they will be the children they're likely to go to school with so it'll be nice for them.
It will be nice for me too. When I collect them from nursery all I'm told, every single day, is "he was absolutely fine" in a sing song voice - the same sing song voice they say the same thing to every parent in.
Midget Gem gets a 'diary' of his day - but to say it gives limited information about his day (about eight and a half hours of his day) is generous. Here's an example:
9.35 - nappy - wet.
9.45 drink and snack
12.00 lunch - pasta
12.30 - nappy - wet
12.45 asleep to 2.30
3.00 snack and drink
3.30 - nappy - wet
4.30 tea (by which they mean dinner. Grr.)
It's nice to see every nappy change (sigh) but I want to know what they DO. It says craft - what craft? They haven't shown me any craft? Do they make things? Draw? Stick? What do they do?
With Jellybean it's even worse. They sometimes tell me if he ate his lunch - that's it. Once they sent home a shaker he'd made but that's all the evidence I've seen of any activities, they don't tell me about his day.
I ask them - and get told he was good, and fine, and ok and happy. One sometimes tells me he's cheeky, and she's commented a few times that he's very clever and quicker than the others with his numbers and letters (this makes me PROUD but I want to know what they do that she sees it? What activity does this come up in?)
I feel like I'm missing SO much of their lives - it's hard going to work, all working Mums know that and it's made harder by just having no clue what they do in that huge expanse of time that we aren't together.
I'm looking forward to getting home and having a chat with the new Nanny - who can talk even more than me (I know my Dad will find that hard to believe, since NOBODY can talk more than me, but it's true, I swear!) and she'll tell me everything they did, said, thought, saw, experienced - and I can't wait - I can't wait to feel more involved in their day again, I can't wait to know more about them and what they're doing and enjoying.
Also, I can't wait to have childcare bills that come in less than £1,300 a month, which was our last invoice. *Vomits £20 notes*